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Thread: My bf keeps getting sex/casual dating spam mail – can I get worried or run?

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Thread: My bf keeps getting sex/casual dating spam mail – can I get worried or run?

My bf keeps getting sex/casual dating spam mail – do I need to get worried or run?

Hello. I want to start with suggesting about myself. We am an extremely intelligent, fiercely separate, and appealing 41 12 months old mother of three (21, 19 & 18). that we have actually raised by myself. I’m now at a true point within my life where I finally have actually the freedom to devote myself up to a relationship. Back July 2013, we came across some guy on-line and now we’ve been together since. Really, now we have been residing together. To tell the truth, at first, i did not think he had been my precise kind, but we thought I would personally offer him an opportunity. After a couple of months of dating, things he stated never ever began incorporating up. Therefore, after some investigating, noticed he had explained a lies that are few. Whenever very very first confronted. he attempted to lie about this more. Justifying the lies by saying he just desired to be ideal for me. This nearly broke us up. But we offered us another possibility. I want to include, among the lies ended up being he was indeed alone (no relationships or intercourse) since their final severe relationship – that has been 2 yrs past. I discovered that hard to trust, but I’d been alone for more than four years (by option) – and so I offered him the advantage of the doubt. Who had been I to express otherwise? After providing me passwords to his facebook and e-mail records (to trust that is earn i came across conversations along with other girl which suggested he had had numerous flings. Also communications to buddies saying he would been with more than 15 ladies in a month! Him again when I confronted. he claimed. it absolutely was bull crap. simply guys playing it up to create himself look good. Within the last couple of months, i’ve discovered which he had active accounts on other sites that are dating. Once I viewed the game, there was clearly absolutely nothing recent. I inquired him he told me to delete everything about it and. I am loved by him and forgot he also had them. Therefore we did. Now, now, he’s got been spam that is getting from web web web sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and others. Whenever I ask him. he simply states it really is spam and ahead do go a look it over and delete every thing we find. He first laughs about any of it whenever confronted. after which gets angry at me personally for maybe not trusting him. since far that he could be looking elsewhere for excitement as I am concerned – he is damn lucky to have me and I am furious of the possibility. seeing as he scarcely touches me personally. I will be frustrated because he just wishes intercourse as he desires it and I also can’t be “in the feeling” without being accused of throwing a tantrum because I’m not “getting any”. He informs me if I want anyone to “rail me personally each night” to get find somebody else”. This hurts me personally because i will be extremely appealing and in good physical shape. Apparently i will be great during intercourse and all sorts of of his buddies (young and old) simply tell him he’s got a super girlfriend that is hot “what is she doing to you?”. He could be beside me on a regular basis and renders their phone and passwords available for me personally to see at any moment. Him actually cheating on me so I can’t see. Just what exactly do you believe. he’s telling me personally the facts or becoming produced complete trick?

Final edited by tbay72; 04-12-2014 at 11:43 AM .

I do believe he could be getting spam because he had been on a lot of internet web sites.

We additionally think you have got settled.for somebody you will be attempting to make fit. Your libidos are not in sync, a tendency is had by him to lie and there has been sufficient “chances” provided spread. Life is simply too quick to be in for “Mr OK”.

>>he’d been with more than 15 feamales in a month! ..seeing me. as he scarcely touches . he’s got been spam that is getting from web web internet sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and others.

okay, that together results in prospective issues.

First, you understand he lies.

And in case he is seeing 15 ladies a thirty days, he may have a taste for anonymous ‘dirty’ intercourse. Many guys had been raised on porn movies and will get yourself a style for the sort of ‘dirty woman’ thing yet not wanting their girl that is regular to ‘dirty’. So he desires their sex to be ‘dirty’ with random females, but his wishes their partner to be ‘clean’ and probably does not wish ‘normal’ intercourse along with her much because their appetite is actually for ‘dirty’ in which he can not resolve that old fashioned tramp/madonna complex. So that you’re their Madonna, and they are their tramps. So he will not be too thinking about intercourse to you if he is busily shagging girls searching for dirty/porn type sex from the part.

In addition to spam that is dirty most most likely means he is been visiting web sites for porn or even attach, that get him on email lists for sex spam. He is perhaps maybe maybe not planning to get yourself a intercourse spam e-mail list from visiting most sites that are non-sex but gets their current email address offered to a lot of other intercourse sites/spam if he visits web internet sites that pander to porn or sex hookups.

Which means this would certainly offer me pause. The worst thing is the lying, specially about their intimate history. He could be lying about making love along with other females, and SAYING he could be lying about making love with 15 girls to his buddies, as he might very well be doing both, exaggerating the amount a bit to wow their buddies, yet nevertheless seeing females on the medial side as f*buddies. In which he’s 40s, not 15! that bragging bravado is ridiculous at his age.

And so I think this might offer me pause. And work out me go right to the physician to have tested for STDs. To be honest he could provide his passwords for email, phone, FB etc., however it is ridiculously an easy task to produce another e-mail and FB account under another title (or simply make use of a variant of his or her own) and do not inform you of it. And obtain a burner phone that you do not learn about to set up hookups along with other females. I am aware a womanizer and that’s just what he did. He previously one formal identification and variety of makes up their wife, and various accounts/phone for their other ladies.

And when a man who was simply allowed to be my BF switched me straight down for intercourse? Ummm no, he’d get dumped. He is most likely making love along with other ladies frequently sufficient from you that he doesn’t need/want it. Of course he’s the sort who would like a ‘pure’ GF and lots of trampy females in the part, it can also explain this type of behavior.

You may make an effort to investigate more to see if he could be cheating regarding the part. (personal detective? keylogger on your personal computer?). But actually i do not understand if we’d stick to a liar or somebody rejecting me personally intimately like he does you. We dated a man whom proved to possess a complete live that is double the medial side taking place, and also the 2nd that you don’t feel you can rely on someone or that they are liars/hiding their real selves, it really is fundamentally over.

I am divorced for 6 years and i still get spam sex mail to my account. This will be password that is MY. plus it claims, Hi wanna be my f**k buddy and keep in mind me? This really is. blah, blah, blah.

We have it on a regular basis! Therefore with that said, spam sex e-mails aren’t anything.

All of those other material. I’m not sure.

Whenever my ex bf had an event, the main recovery and getting past it had been him being ‘transparent’. like providing you the telephone, passwords etc.

He could be doing all that. And a lot of individuals on right right here would think WOW you may be overstepping your boundaries. So my estimation is, he wishes you and just you. and if you do not lay from the nagging him about this. he can get fed up with it and perhaps look some other place.

In place of thinking just just just how hot and wonderful YOU WILL BE. start thinking just just just how wonderful he could be giving you access that is full every thing he’s! For me he’s bending over backwards to show for you he could be trustworthy!

The way the heck i missed the ‘he hardly touches me personally’ I do not understand. Perhaps he’s experiencing like he is used being a ‘sex device’. lol I had a guy who said that once when it was wanted by me!

But like i said, the spam is absolutely nothing.

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